For some people they choose way before they even meet the person. They hear a story of how the person chose to react in a situation they relate to or what kind of car they drive, job they have or how hot their significant other may be and the decision is made.
Others will see the person from across the room. They see their clothes or notice the brand of watch the person is wearing and as long as it isn't one of those embarrassing brands, then they are all right.
For the few of us that scoff at name brands and trust our own instinct over that of others, we like to meet people. Face to face and without the small talk. Then take out all the preconceptions about that person and let them show you how cool they really are. When this system is applied, you would be amazed at how many cool people are really out there.
Don't assume you know where people come from. Don't label people as jerks without knowing them personally. Do give people multiple chances to surprise you. Don't judge a person by their....well, anything.
The older I get, the more I realize that a good friendship usually comes from two people willing to put in the effort to be good friends. I have come across multiple people with whom I have a lot in common, but because of busyness or whatnot, it goes to waste. One of my best friends for the last 5 years has very little in common with me, yet there is a mutual effort and genuine interest. You could be the coolest person I've ever met, but if you aren't interested in investing...well, maybe I'll just see you around.
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